Monday, July 9, 2012
Sometimes when I sit down to work on the mom of honor I don’t even know where to start. Not because I don’t know what to say about her, but because there are so many things I could say. And all the every-day adjectives in the world just won’t do her justice.
That is where I am with today’s Monday’s with Mom, Susie Benda of Edmond, Oklahoma. She faces challenges head on and perseveres every time. She is the first one to lend a helping hand to anyone in need, friend or stranger. She loves her family with a dedication so fierce that everyone around her takes note. And she never stops learning and growing to be a better mother and woman. Her little size 7 shoes are pretty big ones to fill.
Susie and her husband, Jeff, have two boys. Jacob is 16 years old and Alex is 8 years old. Susie works as a preschool teacher at an Early Childhood Program and is a student at OCCC College in Oklahoma City. She also assists her husband with his company as a general contractor. Susie says her life is crazy but she would not change it for the world. Did I mention she is a grateful person too? One of my favorite qualities in a person.
This is what Susie had to say in response to the Monday questions.
What do you wish someone had told you before you had children? I wish someone would have told me all babies don’t sleep through the night. When I was 20 years old, I kept my 2 week old nephew over night and he slept all through the night. I know this may sound a bit naïve, but after that wonderful experience with my sweet nephew, I thought all babies slept through the night. LOL! Both of my boys were colic, so I learned very quickly this was not true.
What drives you crazy? At the moment…the thought of my 16 year old driving!
What are you most passionate about concerning being a mother? Pray without ceasing! We must continually pray over our children. Not just for their health and safety now, but for their future as well. We must pray God will guide them daily in their decisions when we are not with them as much as when they are younger (especially once they become teenagers).
How do you feel about your role as a mother? There are times I feel guilty that I have let my children down between the busyness of working, going to school and my husband having a home office. I have learned I must schedule our “family time” and put it on my calendar, because sometimes that’s the only way I can assure we spend our quality family time together.
What is the one thing you would tell a new mother? You only have 18 summers with that sweet, precious gift…so enjoy them all! Motherhood is never an easy job, but the rewards outweigh the challenges by far. My mom cross-stitched this saying for me when I was pregnant with my first child (16 years ago) so here is some advice for any new mother:
The cleaning and scrubbing can wait till tomorrow,
But children grow up, as I’ve learned to my sorrow.
So quiet down cobwebs; Dust go to sleep!
I’m rocking my baby and babies don’t keep.
~ Ruth Hulbert Hamilton
When I am struggling with one of my children, Susie is the first person I call for advice or to talk the situation through. She is a terrific listener and wise in her offerings of advice and encouragement. I know those same traits bless her children daily. Communication with her children is a top priority with her, and she is supportive and fun and strong with them at all the right times. They are blessed young men for sure. And I am blessed to call her my friend.
Thank you, Susie, for sharing your answers and allowing me to recognize your efforts as a mother. You deserve great honor.